I am wondering - What is the difference between Knowing a person and Understanding a person.



Looking into the dictionary meaning:
Know (verb) - to understand or to be aware of something, or how to do or be something.
Knowing (adjective) - A knowing look is one that shows that you know or understand something that other people do not.

Understand (verb)- if you understand someone says, you know what they mean.
Understanding (noun) - if you have understanding on something, you have knowledge about it.

The meaning of those words are extracted from Collins Easy Learning Dictionary and Thesaurus.

But, coming to think about that, when it applies to connections between people, it seems different. Isn't it? I may know that person, but I may not understand that person based on his behaviour and characters. Likewise, because I know that person, I understand that person. What am I trying to say right now?!*roll eyes*. I am confused too.

Getting into real life. We do know alot of people. But, do we understand them? No. Why?! Because, we just plainly know them but never study them - their character, lifestyle, etc. In other words, for goodness sake, don't say that you understand me because you know me. That's not the true me!

At the same time, people tends to think that their friends or other people understand them because, they know what the person is thinking or feeling. Well, it might be a coincidence that the both of them are thinking alike and has undergo such circumstances before. That's why they know how you are thinking. But that is TOTALLY different from understanding each other. *wink*

But there would be something really disappointing if there are no understanding couples and family. Leave couple alone, cause I am not dating and I am in no position to tell them what to do. Let's talk about family. You would know if you are a constant reader of this little space of mine, that my relationship with my father I are bad. There is totally no understanding between my dad and I, I don't really know him, and he don't really know me. Such as, we don't know each others liking, taste of fashion, character, ways of communication. I admit, I don't really know him and understand him. I could not felt his pressence in when I am young, well just another man at home. A body guard, a guy whom take care of me less than 7 hours a day. So no communication. No chats. No games. No activities involved. Shocking isn't it. So I told my family. I don't know the way he communicate, neither he knows my way of communication. It is impossible for me to trust him 100%. So I am telling all parents. Communication starts YOUNG! Communicate with your children, let them feels your pressence, your love and care. Never breaks your promise between you and your child. Provided you promise to compensate them for another day. You take years to build the trust and love in your chilren. But in a few incident when promises between your children and you are broke, the trust in you child are expected to be loss. Never expect your children to understand you when they grow, because they are hurt once, and would never want to be hurt again!

Once bitten, twice Shy...

Child's thinking is very simple. Really simple. They just wanted what they want. Parents can try to explain to the children their reason and problem why they can't afford to give any thing to them in a really simple ways, so simple that even idiots could understand. However, you can never thought of lying and tricking your children. They are emotionally-weak little fellow. They remember every detail of pain and scenerio they had being through when they are young. Just like me. I could never forget what my parents did to me, caning, scolding, etc (which parents don't cane their children?). These things, I would never forget. Never try to explain you thoughts and what-so-ever reasons to your children cause they don't care and 80% would never understand *wink*.

Let me know if I am wrong. Cause, I wanted more thoughts!! The post above is not scolding anyone, nor accusing anyone. *(:*.

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